Nightmares

Hi guys,
just a quick one as I'm in and out again.

Thanks for the comments about genetic testing and stuff. To be clear, the test I was talking about was the blood test to give the *odds* of having problems - not the needle in the womb test that’s conclusive. That would be the next step.

Thanks to everyone who pointed out we are in the low risk group (Daemon, Diane is 29). Still, doesn't stop you worrying though...

Interesting that Christi picked up on lack of control over her thoughts. On a couple of occasions I've noticed that Diane has had a nightmare and shaken herself (and me) awake. She has never done this before. When I ask her about it she says she can't remember what it’s about.

Maybe there is a link?

Anyway got to go, will blog over the weekend and do another poll.

TaTa

Tim.

Morning Sickness Report

I almost forgot. I think Diane has stopped being sick!

Well she is still queue occasionally but a far as proper hoying it’s been about three days.

Maybe we are in the clear!

Fingers Crossed.

Midwife summary and genetic testing thoughts

Finally! We saw the midwife on Saturday. It was good to at long last get some fairly straight answers to questions (not from you guys off course, but from the medical system I am going to entrust Diane and the new baby to). To be fair the midwife was very good. She did the souped up microphone thing on Diane’s tummy again, but she still didn’t find a heartbeat. Diane’s blood pressure was normal and she is in good health.

We got to ask questions (some that you guys have suggested) and the midwife asked us some too.

It seems though; Diane and I have very different views on genetic testing. I would like them done, partly to give us a clue as to the odds of having a problem, but mainly because we get to have 2 scans - a dating scan and a full scan.

Diane on the other hand does not want to have the tests. If there is a problem she feels she will have trouble coping with the decisions we will then have to make. Do we bring a child into the world that will not have a the full quality of life we should all have the right to expect, or do we have a termination and deal with the emotional consequences that it would bring?

For me the decision would be an obvious one (the cost emotionally would be rather more difficult to deal with). I see it like this. If you are in a car heading towards a cliff, does closing your eyes make the cliff go away?

After talking about it briefly I explained to Diane why I thought we should at least have the tests. My main focus was on the fact we get two scans and a fairly accurate EDOB. However in the back of my mind I can’t help worrying about what will happen if these and subsequent tests prove positive.

Diane is thinking about it. Still, we are trying to be positive – it may not even get to that stage.

What are other people’s experiences with this? Did you get the tests done? And how did the results turn out.

Your thoughts on the subject would truly be appreciated.

Have a great week!

Tim.

I think I'm addicted to blogging

Seriously, we had the midwife appointment on Saturday (See above post). Due to the chaotic nature of our weekends we had to go straight out to an overnight stop at my brothers.

As I was driving down to my brothers I caught myself being quite irritable with Diane and generally in a bad mood (A number of incompetent drivers got hand signals that they don’t teach in the Highway Code!)

Now I’m not generally a moody guy, so I tend to pick up on these events and work out what got me into a mood. I couldn’t find a reason, in-fact the only mildly annoying thing that happened that day – apart from the ineptitude of other road users, was that I couldn’t blog the midwifes visit first!

I tell you – classic addiction symptoms!

I will have to do cold turkey this week. That and the fact I'm away on business most of the week, don't worry I haven't abandoned you, just could be difficult posting for the next day or so.

Tim

Tips on telling your husband you're pregnant – from someone who knows.

Hi Guys,
I posted this on pregnancyweekly.blogspot.com and thought it might be quite usefull and logical to place it in my blog too. Hope you don't mind :-)

When Diane told me she was pregnant, she said “Tim, I’m pregnant” then handed me a stick with a blue line on it. I said the right thing that I thought I should. Not what popped straight into my head.

Don’t get me wrong I was chuffed to bits – we had been trying for 5 years. And yes we got the constant nagging “When are we going to have a granddaughter then?”. I know parents mean well but I don’t think they see the pain behind the smile and reply “we’ll see”.

But I digress

Tips on telling your husband – from someone who knows.

1. For god sake make sure he’s the first person to tell. God forbid he finds out that you told someone else first (or hears it from someone else)

2. Don’t tell him the stick you just handed him is full of pee.

3. If he responds with something other than you expected don’t freak, it will be a big shock to him too.

4. You may find he becomes a little over protective, I did. Humour him, it’s his baby too and he is probably finding himself as a bit of a spare part at the moment.

5. You may know you’re pregnant, but you will feel different, senses changes in yourself. Until the scan the only evidence he has is a blue line on a pee stick.

Hope this helps